Ive been to a few and any is too many funerals of and memorials for children. One often hears at such at such moments is the comment that this death is particularly wrenching, because it is unnatural for a parent to bury a child; it is not the way of the world.
The social historian knows, of course, that parents burying children is all too natural in much of the the world today. In many African countries over 1 in 10 babies dies in the first year of life. And it was all too much the way of the world in the United States until recently. Only in the last couple of generations has that terrible experience become so rare in America as to feel unnatural.
Abraham and Mary Todd Lincoln had four sons. They buried two early on: Eddie at age 4, a victim of tuberculosis; Willie at age 12, a victim of typhoid. Later, the widow Mary buried a third, Tad , who died at age 18 also of TB. Only one child, Robert Todd Lincoln, grew to old age. And the Lincolns were, of course, even before his election to the presidency, an advantaged family, among the well-off elite of Springfield, Illinois. The experiences for most Americans of that era were yet worse.
As I wrote in an earlier post, before the Civil War, the average woman would have buried four children by the time she had reached middle age. Not until after World War I did the typical mother live to see all her children grow up. Parents, particularly mothers, struggled to cope (see here for interesting study), but perhaps the commonness of the experience partially numbed earlier Americans to the pain.
Any such numbness is much less available in our day as the experience has become so much rarer. The graph below shows the tremendous decline in infant death rates since 1900, thanks in great measure to public borrowing and investment for clean water (see here ). A century ago, every year one of every 6 to 7 infants died before his or her first birthday about the same rate as Afghanistan and Sierra Leone today. In 21st-century America, about one of every 150 infants dies in the first year, over a 20-fold reduction in risk (although still double the infant mortality rate in northern Europe today.)
Newborns, we know, are in precarious circumstances. Perhaps more striking are the changes in the risks faced by older children. The graph below shows the death rates faced by 5-to-9 and by 10-to-14 year-olds. The rates of death for them dropped from about 300 and 450 per 100,000 (one in 330; one in 220) in 1900 to about 16 per 100,000 ( one in over 6,000 ) around 2007, again about a 20-fold improvement. Such a death is now a truly rare event.
For a parent to bury a child is indeed unnatural for our country in our time; it is not the way of the world we live in now. All the more painful.
Cross-posted from Claude Fischers blog, Made in America: Notes on American life from American history.